I have received several emails recently from guys that say they are having trouble connecting with women emotionally.

If you have problems connecting with women, more than likely you have problems connecting with anyone in general on an emotional level; just like anything we really need to look at the source of the problem to find the solution which in this case has nothing to do with women. It has everything to do with you; your current lifestyle and how you are dealing with your own emotions.

It’s impossible to connect with a woman emotionally if you are in your head thinking all the time which is directly related to not living your life to the fullest and having way to much spare time on your hands which keeps you in your head when you should be going out and just having a great time, enjoying your life.

Stop trying to analyze everything, get rid of the feeling that you need to dissect, tear apart and figure out all the details on how to… By doing this you are only working against what you truly desire. Keep it simple; remember this is not rocket science, you are a man and do have the natural ability to connect with women built in you.

Being able to connect with women emotionally is only one piece of the puzzle and will come naturally once you begin to change your entire lifestyle. Begin by focusing on yourself and work on getting your own life in-order before trying to figure out women or you never will.

Here are just a few extremely important questions you need to ask yourself; really think about these as you read through them and answer them honestly, if you don’t you are only hurting yourself.

Do I love my life?
Do I love myself?
Am I confident?
Do I have goals and aspirations?
Do I have a great time when I go out?
Do I have friends that I can be myself around?
Am I true to myself and to others?
Am I comfortable with myself?
Am I comfortable being totally random and spontaneous?
Am I comfortable in uncomfortable situations?
Do I live my life to the fullest?
Am I comfortable with my own sexuality?
Am I a man that knows exactly what I want and am willing to do what ever it takes to get it?
Do I have what it takes to please a woman?
Am I a leader?
Do I respect myself?
Do others respect me?

If you answered “NO” to any of these questions then I recommend that you forget about trying to “Connect with women emotionally” and spend some time working on answering “yes” to these. If you said “yes” to all of these than you do not have a problem connecting with women. If you said “YES” to a few of them than you need to work on the others that you said “NO” to.

Understand that there are certain characteristics which every ladies man out there poses which makes them extremely attractive to women, you must also understand what women really want; women love a guy who loves his life, women love a guy that loves himself unconditionally, women love a guy that is confident, women love a guy that has goals and aspirations, women love a guy that knows how to have fun when he goes out, women love a guy that can be himself around his friends, women love a guy that is comfortable with himself, women love a guy that is totally random and spontaneous, a guy that is comfortable in most all situations, a guy that lives life to the fullest, a guy that is extremely comfortable with his sexuality. The list goes on but you get my point, start working on building your new lifestyle.

There is no tactic or trick to learn how to connect with women, it is simply you living your life in a certain way. Learning how to be quiet, listen, express a genuine interest in really getting to know someone with “NO” outcome in mind, how to be present and actually enjoy the moment and having a good time no matter what you are doing. Begin by learning how to be comfortable connecting and opening up to people in general before you try it with women that you are attracted to. Don’t get ahead of yourself, start with the basics and get your life in order before you try to bring someone else into it.

Eyes speak a thousand words and if you do not have the qualities of a sexually desirable man and live the lifestyle than women will be able to tell without you saying a word which will prevent you from ever connecting with her. This is not something you can fake.

Bring out her sexual desires when you first meet her.

There are different questions that you can ask a girl if you really want to get to know her once you know that the attraction is there. Being extremely honest and open with your own sexuality will open up her deepest darkest sexual desires. I am not into lines, routines or even what to say to a girl because once you develop the correct mindset you will naturally develop this and it just flows but I feel this is an important topic so I am going to share it with you.

Typically when a guy begins talking to a girl he just met he tends to fall into the classification of ‘relationship talk’ based on old beliefs on how to talk to women and to be completely honest this scares the s**t out of women and typically kills any possibility of you being with her even if the attraction is there. Do not feel that you need to kiss a woman’s a** for her to like you, she will like you more if you are real and do not hold back. Yes; you do want to be respectful but you do not want to be a p**sy neither and never be afraid to speak your mind.

Here are a couple tips once the attraction is there, if you want to ask a girl a question, don’t ask her in the way a butler at the Ritz Carlton would ask you if you needed a hand with your luggage. You are not catering to her, she is not better than you know matter how hot she is. Treat her as an equal and do not kiss her A**.

A great way to ask a question is with a statement then pause and let her answer.
Example… Silver or Gold?

When I meet a girl; I want to get to know what type of person she is as quickly as possible. This tells me whether or not anything could come out of it, honestly I meet so many women that seem great in the beginning but after asking them some simple questions I find out she is not a girl that I even want to associate myself with; so I am always asking questions. I base my questions on what I am looking for and do not censor anything, everything I ask just flows because I am truly in the moment and I am genuinely interested in getting to know certain things.

I met this girl online a couple weeks ago, the attraction was defiantly there. We talked back and forth a couple times on IM. She asked me for my number and she text me that night, as soon as she text me I began asking her questions right away. Below are some of the questions that I asked her. As you go through the list, think about what you would like to ask a girl based on what you want. I do not recommend that you ask these same questions so create your own. These questions were done via text.

Silver or gold?
The norm or totally random?
Lover or Player?
Passion or rough? Or both?
Outspoken or reserved?
Top or bottom?
Hard or soft?
Hairy or smooth?
Sports or hiking?
First day or third day?
Do you believe in love at first site?
Stay in an unhappy relationship and cheat or just get out?
Two women one guy? Two guys one woman?
Multiple relationships?
Enjoy giving or taking?
Enjoy pleasing or pleasing yourself?
Your deepest fantasy?
Personality or money?
Cocaine or weed?
Beer or Liquor?
Living in the moment or thinking about what’s next?

Create your own questions, I do not ask the same questions with every girl I have attraction with, every situation is different. You do not want to memorize these as it needs to flow naturally. Once you develop the correct mindset this will become more natural for you and you will feel extremely comfortable talking about random things like these. The key to asking questions is to find out what type of girl she is. Check out my MM program to get started with developing the correct mindset.

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You need to understand how powerful these questions are. Not only does it tell you a ton about a girl but it also separates you from every other guy. It shows her that you are actually interested in getting to know her for her not her physical body. It shows her that you are 100% comfortable with yourself and being real, it shows her that you are confident and are not afraid to speak your mind.
This will actually bring out her deepest darkest sexual desires that all women have because she is not use to someone being so straight forward with her and many of the questions are sexual.

I was on the phone the other day with a new coaching client who told me:

“Cory, I’ve been best friends with women all my life. They’ve told me how much they want a nice guy… so I’ve always gone out of my way to be nice and thoughtful.

“They’ve told me how a sense of humor is the most important thing in a guy… so I learned to tell jokes and get laughs.

“They’ve told me that super-confident guys are arrogant pr—ks and they’d never go out with one…

“Funny thing is… those are the ONLY guys they ever end up with… leaving me behind holding the dozen roses I bought them.”

Hey, we’ve all heard the B.S. all of our lives. Women everywhere repeat these statements so often that much of it has become ingrained in our culture.

But B.S. is still B.S.
Look at television. For years, it’s been telling guys that they need to act like the goofballs on Friends and How I Met Your Mother. As if that’s what women really want… whiny guys who do what they’re told and act like grown babies.

We are a nation of programmed idiots. TV programs are NOT real life. Things happen much differently in real life. If Friends and How I Met Your Mother were real, the girls on that show would have ended up with completely different guys.

The lesson here is… Stop listening to what women say they want. Instead, pay attention to what they do.

Young girls dream of a strong, super-confident prince who will sweep them off their feet and carry them away on his horse. A leader. A man who doesn’t question whether or not they “like” him. Guess what? They never stop dreaming about this guy.

That’s why they jump on the jerk’s motorcycle as he revs his engine, taking them for a ride they’ll never forget. Danger. Excitement. Sexual energy.

Every girl has a “bad girl” side deep within them and they are all waiting for that guy to come along that is going to bring it out of them.

This is what attracts women the most. Not what they say they want.

So, are they lying?

Are all women a bunch of nasty liars?

No, not at all. They actually believe they want a goofy funny dorky guy who is always nice. They’ve been brainwashed by the same TV programs with the same ridiculous messages that have been passed down from generation to generation.

And on top of that, society won’t let them believe anything else. Because if they actually verbalized what they really wanted, they’d be labeled tramps and sluts. Women always have to save face so they don’t look bad.

It’s okay for a guy to say, “I’d like to f—- five hundred women.” But women can’t say the same, even if they want to. The peer pressure of female rivalry is too intense. Right or wrong, women are held to different standards than men. It’s just how it is.

There’s a big difference between how things should work and how things do work. Women should be interested in nice goofy guys who bring them flowers and kiss their ass.

But they’re not.

Trust me, my life would have been a hell of a lot easier if this were true. I have the scars to prove it.

Stop listening to what women say they want. Learn how to be what they really want instead.

Become that super-confident guy who knows he can sweep any girl he wants off her feet with just his eyes.

Don’t know how to do it?

A great place to start is with my Magnetic Mindset program.

I have said it before… the decision is yours!

You CAN have an abundance of women in your life. It IS possible, but you have to take the first step.

I’ve noticed something about a lot of instructors who teach guys questionable methods to meet and date women.

They teach control.

What do I mean by that? They want guys to believe that the way to make things happen with a woman is to control every situation.

For example, many instructors teach guys how to get a girl’s phone number, commonly known as a “#-close”… and they teach guys to get it as fast as possible.

That’s B.S. thinking.

Because at the end of the day, the sexually desirable guy that just lets things happen may get less numbers but ends up with four times as many women… and the connection that he has with these women is extremely hot.

In fact, I teach guys not to get numbers, but rather to build such a sexually charged connection during the interaction that she can’t help but give you her number without your even asking for it. This is the real way.

This goes against “community” thinking because there is a misguided belief that getting a number is the same as generating a sexually charged connection.

The “community” also teaches that women do not call guys. But I know for a fact that if you present yourself as a sexually desirable guy who has a magnetic mindset, you can give your number to a woman. Women do call and text guys day and night. This is commonplace for my students.

Another example is talking too much. It is “community” dogma to control the conversation with a girl by talking endlessly, whether you use rehearsed routines or not.

Again, B.S. thinking.

Ultimately, a woman wants to qualify herself to a man. She does not want a man qualifying himself to her, which is what most guys do when they talk too much.

Women love talking about themselves. Why should we take that away from them? Shut up and listen. Some of the hottest interactions I’ve had with women have been hour-long conversations with me saying only five words. It’s an easy way to build sexual chemistry.

Guys want a clear A-B-C roadmap for success with women, but I’m going to be in your face with this… it doesn’t work like that. There is no formula for interacting or communicating with women. Women are emotional beings. I don’t care how smart we think we are. For us to think we can speak rationally or logically to an emotional being is pure ignorance on our part.

But A-B-C thinking is what’s making the bankrolls of many pickup companies fat—attempting to teach guys that you can control each and every situation with either the right line or the perfect routine.

The reality is, we don’t have absolute control of anything. The way to make things happen is to let things happen.

Let it happen!

I’m going to talk a little about my teaching method this week. If you frequent my forum or have purchased Magnetic Mindset, you know that I have several different ways to apply affirmations into your life—ways that I’ve developed over a period of years. (There are other techniques I teach as well, but affirmations are a universally accessible way to get started.)

During the process of acquiring a “magnetic mindset”, many of my students experience a subconscious block that prevents them from being consistent with affirmations. They start applying them and begin to notice subtle changes in the way they behave and the reactions they get from other people. Some of these changes are so far outside of their realities that it blows their minds.

This is scary for some guys. It opens them up to a new world they never thought possible—a new world that is ripe with possibilities that they had never even considered before. A new world that shatters what they’ve always believed.

So they stop.

But, I urge you to never stop your affirmations. Affirmations are your lifeline. They are your oxygen supply. If you stop doing them, then you cut off your own air.

You can’t stop.

Earlier this summer, I personally experimented with stopping. At first, I noticed no difference. But after about three weeks, I began to have negative thoughts that caused me to make a few mistakes… mistakes I wouldn’t have normally made.

We are all the same. Even with all my amazing success with women, in other areas of my life I still have a lot of old negative programming hidden in the back of my brain. We all do.

If we stop our affirmations, we begin to drift backward to bad beliefs that date all the way back to our early childhoods. It’s like the helmsman of a ship who abandons the wheel, hoping that the ship will automatically drift into port.

But we all know what will happen. The winds and currents will drive that ship in random directions. And yet that’s precisely what we allow to happen if we stop applying affirmations.

All your old thoughts and beliefs are deeply embedded in your subconscious mind. By applying affirmations consistently, you slowly change those old limiting beliefs and take control of the direction of your life. Affirmations keep you on course.

See, what I teach guys is a radical way to “detox” yourself from your past. I show you how to build up such a strong defense so that no amount of negativity from others affects you at all.

That’s the power of affirmations (as well as other teaching methods I use) to completely turn your life around… and why you should never stop applying them.

I know a lot of this sounds New-Age-y, hocus pocus, or just plain fruity.

But it works. Results don’t lie.

I’m not a scientist. I don’t pretend to be one. I haven’t done ten years’ worth of research in libraries to uncover the mechanisms behind this.

All I know is that it works.

It works for me. It works for my students. And that’s all I care about. Using these methods, I have now personally changed the lives of guys all over the world. As I often say, I didn’t think I could get this across to guys when I first started.

But now, I know from experience that the guys who are willing to take a chance… to suspend disbelief and do what I tell them to do… have infused their lives with changes they never thought possible.

Your subconscious mind is a powerful mechanism… if you use it properly. It will either make you or break you.

The best way I’ve found to communicate with this deep part of yourself is to do affirmations every day for an hour. Yes, an hour! It’s a very small amount of time when you realize the results you’re going to get.

Set aside a time in your day to apply affirmations the way I teach them. I don’t care how busy you are. This is too important. It is the lifeline that fuels everything else you do.

If you do them every day, you’re one step closer to having the life you want.

In my 3-CD program Magnetic Mindset, I provide you with affirmations that are designed to kick-start a belief system that attracts women subconsciously—by changing the very fabric of who you are on the inside. This program is the perfect introduction to my unique teaching methods.