When guys ask me about being great with women, the first question I always ask is: “What do you want?”

Many tell me they want one girlfriend only because they just can’t create the picture of themselves dating three women at the same time. It’s so far out of their reality.

But the truth is that the possibilities are endless. You can have what you want, but in order to get it you have to be open to it. You have to believe that it’s possible… and that it’s possible for you.

Want to date three to four women without lying nor using manipulation? It’s done all the time by guys who live that reality. Yes, you can be upfront and honest to all of them. Yes, many will walk away. Yes, many will be okay with it.

It’s also okay to date just one girl if that’s what you really want. If your friends are always going on about their conquests and pressure you to get “laid” more often, then tell them to get lost. Be who you are.

The only danger that I see often with this situation is that the guy gets too attached. It’s human nature for a guy to want to be around this beautiful girl at all times and know what she’s doing every minute of every day.

When this happens, the guy usually begins to display insecurities and a possessiveness that kill the relationship. The girl leaves him and he’s left scratching his head, all lonely and hurt wondering what he did wrong.

I recommend to guys that in the beginning, you date two to three girls. Yes, maybe you like one girl more than the other two. But since you have the other two, you’re not going to get obsessed with one.

When you start to think “I wonder what she’s doing”, your ship begins to sink. This is the first sign of neediness growing in your mind. This is the point where you begin to self-sabotage yourself in the relationship.

More than anything, a woman wants a man with a life—a guy who isn’t going to smother her. That’s why most women out there really are open to your dating other women (at least in the beginning until her emotions get the better of her). They’ll never admit it, but women find a man who has other women in his life attractive.

It means he has a life and that he’s a challenge for her to win over. Which is why it’s best to be a “ladies’ man” even if you just want one girlfriend. At least until she’s proven herself to you for a very long time. (And I’m talking years here. Months don’t cut it.)

Being a “ladies’ man” is nothing but having choice in your life. You don’t have to be a “player”. A player lies and manipulates whereas a ladies’ man is honest and direct. A player says, “You’re the only girl in my life” but a ladies’ man says, “I’m not ready to settle down and I’m seeing a couple of girls”.

Believe it or not, when you say this it makes women want you even more. Be honest to yourself and be honest to the women in your life. Even if it’s bold or comes across as rude or arrogant, don’t shy away from it.

And please… don’t make the mistake of locking yourself into a relationship too soon. On the other hand, don’t be a player. Find a balance between the two. Be honest with yourself and others. Follow these simple steps and women will automatically gravitate into your life.

I work with guys from all spectrum’s of life. Guys come to me from the community. They arrive at my doorstep having read the tons of content now available online about meeting women.

There is only one thing that happens when you allow yourself to keep on reading every blog-post, forum, and B.S. theory that’s out there. When you do so, you actually get farther and farther away from your ultimate goal. Ultimately, every guy out there wants to attract women to him naturally and have choice in his life.

Guys tend to collect all kinds of information because they feel safer sitting at home reading about meeting women rather than actually going out and BEING the man that attracts women. Guys who get caught up in reading too much online start to believe that they need each and every technique available before heading out the door.

Guys, I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: Get out of your head. Stop thinking that techniques are your saving grace. They are nothing but a crutch that keep you stuck at home, lonely and frustrated surfing the internet for hours.

What you need to do is start working on yourself. Spend less time focusing on women and more time focusing on the man you want to be—the man who naturally attracts women to him because he’s sexually desirable.

So how do you become a sexually desirable man? It begins with your mindset, and from there it trickles down to your body language, presence, and eye contact. When you change your mindset, you change your belief and how you view the world. Ironically, you also change how the world views you.

At the end of the day, it comes down to the question: What do you want?

If you want to learn a thousand lines and routines—and maybe have mediocre success with women, then keep on surfing the internet. But if you want to have fun, be happy, enjoy your life, and attract more women than you can possibly handle into your life, then start focusing on yourself and what women really want: a sexually desirable guy, not a guy full of lines routines and techniques.

I’ve been a ladies’ man all my life. I never sat at home and posted endlessly my theories. I was too busy with an abundance of beautiful women, having fun and enjoying my life.

Get out of your head. Get out of your house. Get into a new reality by doing the work you need to do to become a sexually desirable man.

If you want to be the kind of guy who goes out to impress women on the street, talking a lot with lots of lines and always having the perfect thing to say, then I’m not your guy.

If you want to be the guy who approaches a hundred women a day with clever phrases, goofy jokes, and opinion openers, then I’m not your guy.

You’ve probably noticed that I don’t spend a lot of time on the internet. I don’t have a thousand posts at various “pickup” forums and blogs.

Unlike many other instructors, I was never a computer geek who posts endlessly

Guys tell me they want to f**k a lot of women. But it’s not about that. It’s about being happy with your life. F**king hundreds of women will not bring you happiness.