Fengshui, a member of my forum wrote an amazing post last week. It moved me so much that I want to reprint it here in case you missed it. It totally nails my entire philosophy of being good with women. Here it is:
“There is an underground band I absolutely love. And they were playing in my town tonight. So I went out alone. Man, I felt nervous going out by myself. For the last nine months, I’ve been out for a total of one time. Nine months is a lot of time to work on your walls, fears and limiting beliefs. So I put on my headphones, laid back and listened to CD1, read the weekly mails and got my internal energy centered.
To make the story short, at the end of the night I was sitting at the table with the band. No loss of conversational topics, the vibe was perfect and the only girl at the table gave me her number when I said “well…I guess…I’ll see you around?”
Guys, I was social, I was confident, I was relaxed, I was in the moment and enjoying every minute of it. Time seemed to just fly by. I felt joy and I appreciated everything. The form of the table, the shape and colors of the plants in the corner, the fresh air I was breathing, comfortable friendships I was forming. I enjoyed everything about being right there in the present moment.
Guys, when your mindset is right and you are in the moment, there is no need to think what I should say next. There is no need for bulls**t routines for dhvs, dqs, asdfs and whatever. When you follow Cory’s teachings, you become the natural male you were intended to be and you understand that what you’re talking about really is only about 7% of communication. It was liberating to just go out, NOT DRINKING, being social in the moment and having a ton of fun! 
Being in the moment is a phrase so short that I missed it completely the first few times I heard it, cause I had a hard time understanding what it really meant. It contains almost a whole life philosophy. It is when there is no past to think about, and no future to worry about, only the present moment where the only concept of time is right here right now.
Understand that the present moment is all there ever was. When the past happened, it happened in the present and the future will happen in the present. With that in mind, there is no past to brood and feel bad about. The s**t that happened to you in the past doesn’t exist and your childhood wasn’t so much better then what you have now.
Your past problems are not your identity – it was just a life situation you had to change. Your present problems are not your identity either. It’s just your current life situation. You are not the guy who is [insert limiting belief here]. It’s JUST your f**king life situation at the moment.
You don’t have to worry about your future either, because the future is only an inaccurate worst-case scenario in your imagination that will never happen. Plus when the future comes, it will happen in the present.
This time concept of past and future screws guys up because we start to think. Not free thought. We think what we’ve been conditioned to think. And thinking works against us most of the time.
Einstein said school was holding him back from his education. Scientists are seen as uncreative because they think too much. Their biggest revelations and solutions to answers often came when they were not thinking and just being creative by being in the moment.
That is why being in the moment is so important. No past negative thinking and no future worries. What is left is a state of peace and plain joy! For example, try to listen to the silence. Just listen to the silence for a bit. If there are cars outside of your window, listen for the silent moments between the cars or if you’re listening to music, listen for the short pauses between the words.
Look around you. Take in and appreciate feelings of your clothes touching your skin, the feelings of your legs touching the floor, the smell, notice the lighting in the room, colors and shapes of the plants – all while listening at the silence and being in the moment.
You will notice that you don’t think about your problems, your past or your future. You don’t feel anger, uncertainty, resentment, hate, guilt, sadness, depression or any other negative emotion. You instead feel a sense of relaxed peace and joy.
Children are in the moment and we are all born confident. We need to get back to that state. Dreaming big dreams and enjoying life as it happens. Not in the future or past but right here and now in the present moment. That to me is being in the moment.
Imagine when you were a kid and you were racing your bike fast down a big hill. You were being in the moment and you didn’t think. No mental disturbance. You were totally absorbed in the present and being in the moment. As I’m writing this I am totally in the moment, and I feel so good right now it’s hard to explain.
Imagine being in this state of mind all the time and additionally having the beliefs Cory talks about. There’s no wonder you’d be a sexual attractive powerhouse when you finally get this way of living.
Fengshui”
Bravo, man! I couldn’t have said it better.
